Years ago, dear Christian
friends of my wife and me explained why they had gotten divorced by writing,
"We exhausted our spiritual resources." It was one of the strangest
explanations I had ever heard, especially from two Ph.D.'s and Christian educators
who knew very well that God's spiritual resources are inexhaustible.
Apparently, they were unwilling to admit what had really happened and to say,
"We quit trying."
More recently, another close
Christian friend, a Ph.D. in New Testament studies no less, and a long-time
educator, left his wife for another woman, who herself was seminary trained and
a pastor, by saying to his wife, "I haven't loved you for the last seven
years." What he meant, of course, was that he didn't have the same kind of
feelings he once had for her. But in the Bible love is primarily a commitment,
obedience to God's commands, rather than an emotion.
Just this fall, a former
student and long-time pastor told me about how had "made a mistake"
and cheated on his wife. In fact, he used the expression several times in our
conversation. Never once did I hear the word "sin," however.




